Parenting: an alternative to punishment and reward

A constant power struggle What do you want for yourself and your children? When we ask this question in our parenting workshops, we always hear the same answers: respect, care, cooperation and responsibility. Sadly, the picture we get from people talking about their daily parenting lives is different. We hear of parents in conflict with their children around everyday activities. Whethe...
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Anxious or avoidant: how NVC can help

Anxious or avoidant? Are you anxious about losing connection with your loved ones? Do you find it difficult to speak up in groups? Alternatively, are you constantly pushing away thoughts of a painful breakup? Do you avoid difficult conversations? These are the questions you can ask yourself to find out your attachment style: anxious or avoidant. NVC usually reserves labels for jars! How...
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Why NVC ​works

  ​​​​Recently I saw a post on social media giving '5 reasons your relationship might not be saved with NVC'. I also remember that a participant told me that she was listening for two hours to her sister. Afterwards she felt exhausted and disconnected. Her efforts didn't seem to bear fruit. Does this mean Nonviolent Communication (NVC) doesn't work? I understand the questio...
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