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NVC Year Training: laughter, singing and tears

We have just finished module four of our NVC Year Training. The venue is deep in the heart Herefordshire, UK. After meeting on Zoom for two modules, it was amazing how easily we merged together and enjoyed each other’s company. Most of our time we spent outside and held the sessions in our geodome. The warm sunny weather and soft green rolling hills contributed to our wellbeing.

We all had a sense of relief and celebration to meet in person again. Everyone agreed that it’s possible to meet online and work through the material to get the learning. However, the quality of connection when we meet in person is different. Zoom doesn’t allow for the little chats while setting up the geodome, preparing meals, doing the washing up, playing board games or sitting in the evening around the brazier.

When we’re together in person, we can see the other person in their wholeness. We can give them a hug or a friendly stroke. It was refreshing to share loud laughter, and crying when we felt touched had a healing aspect.

The year-and-a-half of Covid restrictions have impacted all of us, some more than others. I’m not talking about people who were and are suffering from Covid. I’m talking about the impact of being restricted from meeting people and/or feeling isolated and/or feeling anxious about getting Covid.

My son who is studying and living on his own in Germany, gradually lost his motivation to do anything including getting up and eating meals. He realised that he needed to live with other people for a while to regain a sense of connection. Two weeks ago I led my first in-person NVC Level One weekend in Bristol. The topic of how we stay Covid-safe created tension for some participants because of different levels of anxiety. This was even though we had clear agreements at the beginning. These examples are the tip of the iceberg.

Coming out of restrictions is another topic in itself. A friend of mine from Germany told me that some people feel anxious to leave their home or meet in groups. It’s called Cave Syndrome.

Becoming aware of how stressful these times are in different ways, I feel grateful for Shantigarbha’s and my health right now. Sometimes it’s important to bring attention to needs that are being met. Remembering what we’re grateful for can increase self-awareness and self-connection. Marshall Rosenberg described gratitude as Giraffe Juice or fuel for our energy tanks. It’s uplifting to feel the rising warmth in my heart.